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22, living in South Carolina. Looking for what…

22, living in South Carolina.
Looking for whatever comes my way.
Distance is not an issue! 😊
I play the ukulele and sing.
And can cook some bomb ass Mexican food.

Let’s talk?

FEBRUARY 24: Judith Butler (1956-)


It’d be kind of difficult to write about queer women without
mentioning once Judith Butler, the American philosopher and theorist whose work
has profoundly influenced modern thought, especially in the fields of feminist
and queer theory.

Her academic achievements are impressive; and so is her list
of publications, among which we can find some of the groundbreaking texts on
gender, identity, sexuality, bodies, ethics, queerness, and Jewishness of the
20th-century: Gender Trouble
is usually the most well-known of her books, as it helped develop the idea of gender
performativity in feminist and queer theories, and has had impacts in film
studies and literary theory as well.


Judith Butler at a lecture at the University of Hamburg, April 2007, photo from Wiki Commons taken by

Butler was born in Cleveland, OH; her family is of Jewish
descent, hailing from Hungary and Russia. Out of her early education probably arose
her deep interest in ethics and political philosophy, as she attended Hebrew
school and special tutorial classes on Jewish ethics when she was a teenager.
She was a philosophy student in college and grad school, and she obtained her
PhD from Yale in 1984. She’s taught at numerous prestigious universities since
then, and she’s now the Maxine Elliot
in the CompLit department of Berkeley, where she’s taught since
1993, and where she founded the Critical Theory Program. She also currently
works at the European Graduate School, where she’s the Hannah Arendt Chair. She
lives in California with her partner, Wendy Brown, who’s also a professor at
Berkeley, working in political science and critical theory (birds of a feather
really do flock together), and their son.

Obviously, you can’t have that kind of public visibility
without some form of criticism. She’s been under fire for anything from her
views on gender to her prose style, which her detractors often consider to be pointlessly
obtuse. As always, there’s definitely valid criticism in all this, but one can’t
help but notice how often Butler’s been vilified by mainstream media and
conservative thinkers whenever she challenges deeply ingrained concepts (she
was basically demonized as the antichrist when marriage equality became a hotly
debated issue in France a few years ago).

has a pretty exhaustive bibliography for her. For more reading, there’s this
piece on the NYT
where she breaks down why “All Lives Matter” is wrong, and
a Youtube
brings up plenty of her lectures, which may be in a more
comprehensible format than her more academic texts. Finally, in this interview with The TransAdvocate, she explains her views on transgender identities and TERFs (spoiler alert: she fully supports any trans person’s right to self-definition, and completely opposes the latter).

And if you’re into that kind of thing, here’s a panel discussion
between Butler, Cixous, and Ronnell from back in 2012.

– AK

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Hey guys! I’m single and I’m looking for new people to talk to!
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Jillian • 33 • INTJ • Disability rights advocate

Looking for friends and, hopefully, that special someone. Open to LDR.

Cat lady. DVR is always more than half full. Crafting and stationery. Music is life.

hi! i’m jess. i’m 21, soon to be 22. i live in…

hi! i’m jess. i’m 21, soon to be 22. i live in Washington state. i’m looking for a girlfriend but friends are always welcomed! i’m okay with ldrs but it would be cool to find someone nearby. i’m just a hopeless romantic trying to find the right girl for me. disclaimer: i do struggle with depression and anxiety. just putting that out there before anyone gets involved 🤷🏻‍♀️i love cuddling and any form of physical affection. i love music, movies, concerts, and obviously girls 😉 get to know me!
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FEBRUARY 23: Lady Frances Brudenell dies


Today, we bring you not a birthday but a death. We tend to focus generally on birthdays because lesbians are always dying in mainstream media but Lady Frances Brudenell’s exact birth date is unknown (Wikipedia says before 1677), and even the exact year of her death is unknown: 1735 or 1736. Either way, it happened on February 23rd.

Frances, Baroness Bellew of Duleek, by Godfrey Kneller, 1695

She was a countess and a baroness resulting from her two marriages, from which she had several children. But aside from that, because everyone knows aristocracy can get boring after a while, she was basically running this Irish circle of lesbians and bisexual women (“tribades” they were called).

And this wasn’t hidden at all, apparently. This guy who accused her of owing him money, wrote a satire against her in revenge, where he depicted her as Myra, “a promiscuous bisexual witch and lesbian.” No higher compliment, if you ask me. And what is it with guys calling lesbians and bi women witches? Not that I’m complaining. Apparently, this is one of the first uses of “lesbian” in the modern sense.

(The satire was also called “The Toast” – you can’t make this up.)

She’s buried in
St. Audoen’s Church

in Dublin, if you want to go and pay your respects to the mother of lesbian & bi witches everywhere.

– AK

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Lexie, 20, Pisces, Mississippi

I love space/aliens, conspiracies/criminal cases, Lana Del Rey, and vintage vinyls. I swear too much, and I’m 85% coffee 15% tears.
I can be funny, but don’t hold your breath. Certified cat lady.
Do your worst.

FEBRUARY 22: Jane Bowles (1917-1973)


“I’m Jewish, homosexual, alcoholic, a communist – and I’m a cripple!”

is how Jane Bowles once allegedly described herself. Never one to live on the sidelines, Bowles became a legendary figure in the American expat and literary circles of the early 20th century.


Jane and Paul Bowles, via Flavorwire

She was born a hundred years ago exactly, in New York, to Jewish parents. Her teenage years were marked by tuberculous arthritis in her knees which led to her mother taking her to Switzerland so that she could get treatment. There, while going to boarding school, she developed a profound interest in literature, which she continued to have after her return to NYC and her introduction to the bohemian life of Greenwich Village, where she frequented all the lesbian bars and dressed in men’s clothing.

In 1938, she married fellow writer Paul Bowles, but this did absolutely not deter her from continuing to go to all the lesbians bars in Paris anytime the couple traveled to France. Paul and Jane were both bi, and most of their sexuality happened outside of their marriage. They traveled extensively together. Her later years were marked by a stroke at the age of 40, and from there on general ill health and alcoholism, as well as a permanent split from her husband.

Jane Bowles’s legacy tends to be erased in favor of her husband’s but still: a biography of Jane, A Little Original Sin, was written by Millicent Dillon in 1981. John Ashbery called her “one of the finest modern writers of fiction in any language” and Tennessee Williams thought she was tremendously underrated. In Paul Bowles’s 1949 novel, The Sheltering Sky, the Moresby couple is heavily based on Paul and Jane; the movie adaptation had Debra Winger play this version of Jane/Kit. Documents related to Bowles can be found here and here. She wrote one novel, one play, and a little over a dozen short stories. Her letters were published in a book, and you can read one here (incidentally the same one that was quoted in Chris Kraus’s I Love Dick).

– AK

FEBRUARY 21: Ellen Page (1987-)


Ellen Page is
a Canadian actress usually best known for playing a teen mom in movie Juno, or the Derby Roller skater Bliss,
aka Baby Ruthless, in Drew Barrymore’s Whip
. But after she came out on Valentine’s Day three years ago she became an
inspiring model and advocate for the LGBT community.


Portrait of
Ellen Page, photographed by Marteen de Boer during the Getty Images Portrait
Studio hosted by Eddie Bauer at Village at The Lift on January 24, 2016 in Park
City, Utah.

Ellen Grace
Philpotts-Page was born on February 21, 1987, in Halifax, Nova Scotia. She decided
to go to a Buddhist school where meditation and yoga were on the curriculum.
She began her film career at 10 in Canadian TV then cinema (with roles for
which she collected several awards despite her young age), though started to get international recognition with the 2005
movie Hard Candy, and with her appearance
in blockbuster franchise X-Men as Kitty Pride, a girl who has the capacity to
walk through walls.


Still from
2007 movie Juno 

She got
attention from Hollywood with 2007 movie Juno,
for which she received her first Oscar and Golden Globe nominations. She portrays
a sassy, independent-minded teenager who gets pregnant at 16 – and her
performance was praised by the critics and the general public alike. The movie,
which reflects the director’s as well as Page’s mindset, is very much
‘pro-choice’ in that if she decides against getting an abortion, it is after
visiting an abortion clinic, and examining all the choices given to her
(eventually choosing to give the baby up for adoption).

Ellen Page describes herself as feminist, “and of course I am ’cause it’s about
equality, so I hope everyone is. You know you’re working in a patriarchal
society when the word feminist has a weird connotation.” She also dedicates
herself to environmental causes and LGBT rights.


Still from
2015 movie Freeheld with Julianne
Moore as Laurel Hester and Ellen Page as Stacie Andree

After other
notable performances in Tracey Berkowitz’s The Tracey Fragments, Drew Barrymore’s Whip It,
Christopher Nolan’s Inception, or
Woody Allen’s To Rome With Love, the
project of the film Freeheld came
along. The movie
is based on 2007 documentary of the same name about the true story of New
Jersey police officer Laurel Hester (played by Julianne Moore) who, after being
diagnosed with terminal lung cancer, had to fight against the county’s board of
chosen freeholders so that her domestic partner Stacie Andree (Page) could
benefit her pension after she passed. With her
involvement in the making of the movie (as producer as well as actress) she
felt the need and courage to come out of the closet. She explained that it took
6 years to make the movie, and that the process paralleled her own personal
journey to come out as gay, as she “felt wildly inappropriate to be playing
this character as a closeted person.”

Ellen Page
comes out as gay in her speech in Las Vegas at the Human Rights Campaign’s Time
to Thrive conference on Valentine’s day in 2014.

“Here I am,
an actress, representing at least in some sense an industry that places
crushing standards on all of us. (…) Standards of beauty, of good life, of
success. Standards that I hate to admit, have affected me. You have ideas
planted in your head, thoughts you never had before, that tell you how you have
to act, how you have to dress, and who you have to be (i.e. as defined by
stereotypes of masculinity and femininity). And I am here today because I am
gay. And because maybe I can make a difference.”

In an
interview with Ellen DeGeneres
, Page
explains that being a closeted person hurt her career more, because she felt
sad and uninspired; that she felt guilt for not being out, and felt isolated from
the LGBT community. She also revealed in another interview with Elle Magazine that she
“would get panic attacks and sense an incredible discomfort because (she)
didn’t relate to the conformity that comes with (her) gender.”

Now however
she is more excited about life, and experiences a sense of happiness she has
not felt before.  Not only does she feel
privileged and grateful to be in the position where she can talk about issues
and help others less fortunate that she is, but she also is in a relationship
with artist and surfer Samantha Thomas

Since then,
she has been involved in several movies, like Tallulah, projects, but mostly TV Series Gaycation, in which she and Ian Daniel explore LGBTQ cultures
around the world by meeting travellers and hearing their stories.

– Lise